6 Things to Avoid Saying Through Text

Daniel Silva
2 min readJan 18, 2022
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Whether you admit it or not, technology is a great part of our current lives, especially in relationships.

Apps like Tinder and Grindr replaced the old-fashioned date. All it takes is a swipe, a few words of conversation online and suddenly you’re in a relationship.

However, since almost everything goes online, we’re losing track of what should be common boundaries. The way you expose yourself might hinder you and your relationships.

Following this, here are some things you should tone down or completely avoid when texting.


Your voice is essential to communicate feelings. Without hearing your tone, the other person might misunderstand how much the issue means to you. Not even emojis can replace your emotions, as they can be interpreted ironicaly.


Texting is instant and not being eye-to-eye makes it easier to cross the line. Once you send that one insult you might immediately regret it and start to wonder how you could have expressed your discontent if you were near the person, or had more time to think about what to say.


Again, the lack of tone makes the person wonder if your apology is truthful or vague. Instead of a “I am sorry” try “can we talk tonight?”. This way you’re giving both of you time to properly think about the situation and what to say to each other.

Big news

Telling someone big news through text either undermines or exaggerates them. If you drop a “I think I love you” it just loses its power, while saying “I have a condition” might send the other person into an anxious state, wondering how bad it is.

Address troubling behaviours

If you do this, you’re asking for unnecessary discussions. While you’re talking eye-to-eye with the other person, you’re giving them a chance to explain themselves and you can also read their body language.


Either being yours or someone else’s, you should always consider that there might be a different person in front of the other screen. Secrets tend to be private, and as soon as they are online they might end up in the public domain.

Inspired by a fellow creator, I decided to challenge myself to publish 100 short-form articles within January. This is article number 27.